Accept the reality without much questioning, solution will emerge out of your acceptance and happiness.
It is easy to judge and find out loopholes in other’s life. We become critic to others and overestimate our own contribution and strength. If one keeps on reviewing other’s action, behaviour and thought process assuming self as impeccable, great or unquestionable then it is likely one will damage the beautiful and loving human relationship.
As per the psychologists a person suffering from self-attribution bias, keeps on blaming external factors for one’s own failure and pay extra credit to the self for success or achievements.
In audit and finance one famous line is ”too much analysis leads to paralysis”. If one keeps on analysing other’s action as a judge and keeps on defending one’s own weakness as an advocate, then it is sure one is doing immortal damage to other’s emotion and good relation. Perhaps it is unrepairable. Millions of relationships ended up with differences and divorce just because we are less compassionate and more judgemental. It is difficult to accept one’s own weakness, deficiency, and short comings. Unless and until one does not realize them, one assume the self as a perfect personality. God teaches do not be complacent about our own effort, position or progress, rather track and monitor our own preparations and practices towards divinity. The first step of self-correction or transformation is self-realisation. Realisation of our own faults and weaknesses after self-analysis open the path for self-transformation and progress. A person who pays attention to his/her own deficiency and appreciates other’s strength, specialities and uniqueness become a unique person.
Compassion is a Solution:
Compassion is a great solution. Be compassionate, understand the situation of the person in front. Be cooperative instead of correcting others. Love, compassions and cooperation teach other’s many lesson, they realize and repent immediately. In many instances, one needs to be patient to get the reciprocation or positive reaction. The mother earth keeps on serving its own children with food, shelter, energy, water and wind since ages without any question. Broadening our horizon, opening up our heart and serving selflessly is the solution.
Art of Correcting others:
Definitely one should guide others for improvement and self-development, but identify the appropriate time, place and situation. In a packed meeting criticising and censuring other’s mistake means you are developing immortal enemy. In order to correct someone, one can make a personal call or call the individual for a face-to-face meeting to discuss things and short them out. Brahma Baba use to rectify others with benevolence, love, appreciation and care.
We have very sweet moments of life so cherish them, enjoy them, enjoy the relationships, strengthen them with mutual understanding, sharing, compassion, forgiveness and support. It is easy to spoil relations with your review, analysis, critic and micro auditing.