The Youth Wing of the Brahma Kumaris organized a National Retreat at Manmohinivan Complex, Abu Road, Rajasthan from 20th to 24th July 2018 on the theme of: “Youth – Kal ka Shilpkar”. More than 225 youths from all over India participated. We had wonderful sessions mainly on how a youth can identify his/her goal, move forward, the possible barriers and the hindrance and how to overcome them? How youth can become the future role model for the self, the society and the country?
One workshop was on “Harmonizing the Hammers”, which was aimed at understanding various kinds of situations, problems, hurdles one faces towards achieving their goal. Our workshop coordinator shared on this topic that at a construction site of a temple, there were so many sculptors engaged in carving the stones. The workers developed harmony with the hammer and the sound. The stone failing to bear the hammer breaks and it may be used as a footstep whereas the stone bearing the hammer becomes an idol and it is worshiped. Life hammers us in many ways in order to shape us like an idol. Bear them, enjoy them, and design your life. Hammers are good.
The person, who is suffering from over-confidence bias will give more importance to the private information than public information. Out of research, it is found youth used to suffer from over-confidence bias. The research says over-confidence leads to either over-reaction or under-reaction. Either a person becomes hyper or lethargic with too much confidence on his ideas, experience and abilities. There is different form of over-confidence. A question was asked to a youth “how good is he/she driving on road relatives to others”? Most of the youth answered average or above average. None of them answered below average, means there is confidence among the youth. That is good! But one should have the true understanding of self-ability, knowledge and skill. Over-confidence leads to over-reaction; one becomes impatient and damages his future.
An over-confident person may try to see positively or a good outcome without sufficient hard work and effort. There are other forms of over-confidence besides driving, the ability to forecast, the agility to maintain relationship, decision making, good at job, etc. Throughout the day, all of us suffer from different form of over-confidence, giving little importance to other’s knowledge, ability and experience.
Self-respect is good to get rid of frustration, but true estimation of the self helps in choking out a proper plan. We have to accept the reality and act accordingly. Research states that boys are more over-confident than the girls. Many times over-confidence makes one dormant, lethargic and inept, will not listen to anyone and ignore the seniors or good wishers advice. Youth suffering from too much over-confidence demeans other but hardly act or initiate. It seems over-confidence germinates ego and complacency, many are often confident about their luck. Thinking self- lucky without doing anything, waiting for divine intervention, miracle, etc. are fatalism. Initiate, contact the right person, accept good suggestion and advice, march ahead, keep patience, every day one step, slowly, steadily increase your pace. A day will come when you can fly.
Simplicity is beauty
Choose a day as your day of simplicity.
Speak little, and listen with attention. Do something incognito and nice for a person you are close to. Eat simple and natural food.
Create time periods for not doing anything – just walk, look around, live the moment. Have your mind open to a more profound and silent sensitivity.
Appreciate each scene and each person as they are.
The longest distance in the World is from the head to the heart (A million dollar statement by an unknown master). The longest journey that you will make in your life is from your head to your heart. The journey into the heart is our future and it is our only way of creating a future. It is a movement towards wholeness, integrity and compassion. It is an emotional awareness. To become aware of everything that you are feeling at every moment is very difficult because you experience so much pain each moment. Becoming aware of our emotion means becoming aware of our pain. It is challenging, unpleasant and difficult. It is most rewarding than any of us can imagine. The awareness is transforming human experience.
Becoming emotionally aware is a process and creating an authentic power is lifelong endeavour. Today’s education is shaping our intellect and logical thinking. We are intellectually strong, sharp and focused but the problems of life need more humanitarian approach of flexibility, empathy and cooperation than the logic. In the world of science, intelligence matter in the society and the family, we need sympathy and sensitivity. Self-awareness leads the individual to analyse the purpose and existence of life, it helps in analysing life at every thought. Self-awareness helps in connecting the dots or different facet of life. Which awareness? The awareness of spiritual being, the awareness of spiritual treasure of virtue, might and love in every individual. The awareness of the Spiritual Father and His presence in and around me, His cooperation. The awareness of the divine energy and relation which have been binding us. The journey of such experiences is long and a few initiate the footsteps of courage. We give so much excuses and many of us get tired or tumble. It is invisible and slippery. The word relapsing is appropriate in this journey as many of us feel safe in reverting back to the starting point. Physically, we are aware of our existence but emotionally ignorant of our strength, capacity and ability. Lao Tzu said that the first step on the path to wisdom is the ability to say, “I don’t know.” In the Brahma Kumaris millions of souls are emotionally aware and determined to cover the journey. Life is filled with energy and motivation to march ahead and to take the millions along. It is not just a solo journey, many will join with you and many are already there. It is the journey of joy and relaxation.
Catch them Innocent, make them Saint