In today’s world, everyone seeks well-wishers, yet doubts often cloud relationships, as envy and competition take center stage. On the spiritual path, we often speak of “One World, One Family,” but turning this aspiration into reality requires more than words. While intentions may be pure, deeply ingrained conditioning often limits our ability to act as true well-wishers.  

Understanding the Barriers  

Our upbringing and past assumptions shape our behaviors and perceptions. If we are raised to believe, “I am the best,” We may feel threatened by others’ success or talents, focusing on their weaknesses or attributing their achievements to luck. This mindset creates inner insecurity, making it harder for us to genuinely celebrate others’ success or assist them in their growth.  

Similarly, if we are conditioned to think, “I must always have the best,” dissatisfaction becomes inevitable, no matter how much we acquire. In a world driven by competition, the belief that another’s gain is our loss fosters envy, preventing us from being truly happy for others.  

Why Do These Assumptions Exist?  

These beliefs often arise in a world that emphasises scarcity—of resources, opportunities, and love. Phrases like “I am the best” or “I deserve the best” are often used as confidence boosters during childhood. When children grow up in competitive environments, these ideas are reinforced, leading to behaviours that hinder genuine well-wishing and collaboration.  

Transforming Our Thinking  

To become a true well-wisher, we need to shift our focus:  

1. Recognize and Develop Your Own Qualities

   – Concentrate on enhancing your strengths and learning from those who excel. A positive outlook fosters growth and inner peace.  

2. Help Others Grow

   – Share your knowledge and skills with those who may know less. Guiding others not only deepens your understanding but strengthens your qualities.  

3. Wish Well for All  

   – True happiness arises when we genuinely wish for others to achieve their highest potential and succeed in life.  

The Consequences of Not Being a Well-Wisher  

When we fail to think well of others, mistrust takes root. This impacts relationships, creating distance and robbing us of the benefits of teamwork. Feeling the pressure to “do it all” can lead to stress and isolation, making life more challenging than it needs to be.  

What This Doesn’t Mean  

Being a well-wisher doesn’t imply giving undue credit or ignoring the principle of “karma”. Every soul is entitled to love, peace, and happiness, but the fruits of one’s actions will always align with the law of cause and effect. Our role as a well-wisher is to guide others towards self-awareness and empower them to grow.  

Affirmations for Meditation  

In meditation, we can create these powerful wishes:  

– May every soul reach its highest potential.  

– May all good wishes come true. 

– May every soul experience love and peace.

– May they have the strength to overcome suffering.

– I am a medium for others to achieve their potential.  

– I forgive others and free myself from negativity.  

By practising these affirmations and aligning our actions with pure intentions, we can become true well-wishers, nurturing harmony within ourselves and the world around us.