Every thought we create is a connection we make with the world around us. And the quality of thought determines the kind of energy exchange we would have. When we watch someone perform an action the area in our brain that gets activated is the same as when we perform that action ourself. No wonder people love to watch others play various games as they get the same thrill as if they are playing themself. Children who are exposed to people with violent behaviour in their surrounding tend to pick up similar behaviour patterns. Experiments have been done where children are shown a scene involving use of violent behaviour or foul language and later on these children tend to repeat what they saw or heard.
What we watch and think about determines the kind of neural patterns being activated in our brains. Repeated activation of any pattern reinforces it and turns into sanskars. People who do bhakti or sadhana direct their thoughts towards their object of devotion or any other chosen object, also called as Ālambana (Sanskrit:आलम्बन).
If we direct our thoughts towards the Supreme Divine Father in the world of silence then our mind starts becoming calm and a repeated practice of this makes us more and more peaceful. When getting into worldly interactions if we are able to filter our intake so as to only absorb the qualities of others and the good around us we reinforce similar sanskars. If we use our qualities and put them into action they get further reinforced and thereby making our sanskars even stronger. Procedural memory is the one that is built by the actions we perform and studies have shown that it remains with people even after they suffer memory loss.
In essence, we are the ones who govern our Sanskars or behaviour patterns we are building and thereby the kind of energy exchange we do with the universe that inner state we achieve.